I promised myself I would not address the whole Mimi Faust sex tape scandal, but since we’re still talking about it…here goes.
In no way shape or form is Mimi Faust a reflection of me. For those who don’t know, Love and Hip Hop star Mimi Faust made a sex tape or porn video (that subject is debatable) with boyfriend Nikko Smith. In anticipation for the upcoming season of Love and Hip Hop the sex tape was highlighted in the new trailer. Then the video was leaked and Mimi received the largest backlash I’d ever seen. We subsequently rolled our eyes and expressed our confusion on why she would do such a thing. Even Steve Harvey inserted his two cents in an open letter to Mimi.
Last week, commentators on The Grio’s show Politini addressed this same issue stating, “Seriously, what’s up with the outrage?” “Why are people shocked that ratchet reality stars would make a sex tape?” “Obviously they are in the game to get paid and to extend their 15 minutes of fame, so why are folks acting like our hopes and our dreams and the fate of black womanhood are tethered to this?”
I could not agree more with this statement. The fact that we have to compare ourselves with a reality star is confusing. This whole faux scandal is really a non-issue to me. I’m not mad. In fact, I don’t have any emotions tied to Mimi and her decision to market herself as a porn star. That’s on her.
Image is everything in our culture. If something surfaces that we consider less than, the world shakes and comes to an end, because we feel like there are no positive images of black women in the media. It’s something we fight for more often than we have to. And it’s hard seeing the images of Mimi and Nikko on television and on the Internet. I get it. But we’ve struggled with imagery long before Mimi Faust ever became popular.
Why give the whole sex tape scandal any attention at all? Let’s face it. We are the reason her image gets played like a broken record. Our society craves for more sex and more drama hence our love/hate relationship with reality shows. When images like Mimi’s pop up on our news feeds or timelines, we say we’re not monolithic, but do we really believe it? If that’s the case, let’s stop tweeting about it, let’s stop emulating the infamous shower rod scene and reshift our focus to something else worth talking about (like People Magazine naming Lupita Nyong’o ‘Most Beautiful Person’). We have different perspectives, and most importantly, we don’t have the same morals or values.
Mimi’s decision to do a sex tape does not weigh heavy on me. If you follow the show and all of its antics, someone was bound to come out with a sex tape. I’m surprised it took this long and I’m even more surprised at this whole PR campaign to promote it. At the end of the day, when we give negative actions attention, its people like Mimi who gets paid. Not us. So why does it affect us so much if she’s not a true representation?
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