Gratitude in 1000 Ways


My birthday is less than a month away. Some people call this one a milestone. I always pictured what my life would be at this age. I’m sure we all did, but our plans never happen the way we want. When I think about this year in particular, it makes every plan that I had not coming to fruition the biggest blessing I ever received. This year is certainly time for reflection. When Sarah Williams from Adventures of a School Teacher penned a blog post expressing gratitude in her life, I had to accept the challenge. Here are my first 5 reasons. I’m a firm believer that when you live a life filled with gratitude, you increase space for more good things to happen to you.

I am Grateful for…

  1. My life. I wouldn’t trade my life for the world. Every day I start a prayer thanking God for waking me up, and giving me the gift of life. I understand there are a reason and a purpose why I was chosen to be here on earth and sometimes I fail at working towards that purpose. But God still chooses to wake me up every day to give it another shot.
  2. Adversity. I know you’re probably wondering why am I thankful for the bad things that happen to me? Many people associate adversity as being something negative. But adversity is inevitable. With so much that I’ve been through, I had no choice but to embrace it. Adversity became my friend. The truth is when we go through adversity it pushes us to initiate real change. I’m convinced that growth is painful, and we might fall more times than we’re able to stand, but that’s when we begin to see the greatness that is within us and for that I’m grateful.
  3. My support system. I’ve heard the saying there are people who come into your life for a reason and a season, and that saying never fully resonated with me until a support system started to form around me. Let me tell you, some of these people were the very least I thought would provide  any type of support. When life would kick me at every way possible, my “inner circle” of friends, family and mentors became a hub of constant prayer and encouragement. I know I can call them for just about anything. And they allow me to do the same for them. Now that I have strong support system, it is so much easier to let go of people who just simply are not there for the long haul. But that doesn’t mean I’m not thankful for the lessons I learned along the way.
  4. My gifts. It took me a very long time to accept what I’m naturally good at as gifts. I used to believe in the cliché that you can do anything you put your mind to. While that may be true in some instances, you can’t achieve real fulfillment until you have used your gifts to carry out your purpose in some way. Naturally, I’m a storyteller. When I was growing up, and I discovered something that no one else knew, and it wasn’t a secret, I couldn’t wait to let everyone know. Every year someone would give me a journal. I mean, like every year. And every year it would be a different person. It seemed like when I would get a journal, it was another dose of confirmation telling me writing in some form is what I should be doing. Even back then people were giving me a piece of my dream. Coincidence or not?
  5. My circumstances. No matter how much I work I put into moving forward, I am also grateful for the time I’m spending in my current season. Plus, I’m trying this whole being content where I am thing, but I digress…But seriously, I know there is a very specific reason for the place I’m in now. Because sometimes you are put in places to be developed, to be molded and shaped into who you are meant to become or to prepare you for something better. I never want to be put in a position or go into another phase unprepared. I at least try to live in the present instead of always thinking ahead. No matter how much you plan, you never know what the outcome is going to be.

What do you think? How do you express your gratitude every day? Take the challenge! #gratitudein1000ways

Is Social Media Enough To Bring Our Nigerian Girls Home?


Two weeks ago, militants abducted over 200 Nigerian girls from their boarding school in the town of Chibok. It is now being reported that the girls are being sold into mass marriages for $12. Out of the 200 missing, 14 girls escaped, but large portions of them are still missing.

Parents and relatives of the missing children are not satisfied at the way the Nigerian government is handling the situation. They feel the safe return of the girls are not the government’s nor Nigerian President Goodluck Jonathan’s first priority. Protests and rallies occurred in the wake of this devastating ordeal and sparked international outrage. But not in the way you would think.

I’ve been following this story for the past week and it gets more and more heartbreaking. Part of the reason why I started Candid Commentary was to write about difficult topics not consistently covered in the media, and unfortunately, this story is one of them. Every time I tune in to any type of mainstream media outlet, it seems as though this story is slipping under the radar. I keep hearing about the recent job report and even about Malaysian Flight 370, but no one can take the time to analyze or even report on the missing girls. The only way I could get updates was through the Internet.

The safety and protection of these young girls just trying to get an education is a REAL issue and should be covered 24/7 like everything else. It’s sad to say, but this story is just evidence of how society views black women. Much interest in this story appeared on social media and it has now sparked a full campaign. According to the BBC News, the hash tag #Bringbackourgirls generated over 360,000 tweets and retweets since it’s creation on April 23. Many celebrities and Nigerian residents joined the cause expressing their frustration with the Nigerian government and are demanding answers.

One cannot deny the power of social media. It’s known to bring missing girls home in the U.S., and can generate enough interest to increase change when it comes to activism. Even Black Twitter is known to have tremendous power in amplifying issues to initiate change. But is it enough? Will our concurrent likes, retweets and posts really make a difference in trying to find our girls? When the government fails, can we rely on social media to advocate for more media attention and involvement from international organizations? That’s why it’s so important for us to continue to follow new developments and to continue to tweet, post and talk about this story until each girl is rescued.

A petition on was created by Ify Euleze to support all efforts in rescuing the missing girls. The petition urges that all children deserve to be safe and protected especially in educational environments.

What do you think? Can social media be the driving force to help #bringbackourgirls? Click on the post and comment below! Be candid in your response!